by juliashingleton

I’ve written about “Going On” and “Love” but I really haven’t spoken about what goes in between those two topics: F*cking Breakups.  So you know how to love? So you know how to move on? Well…how do you cope with a break up exactly? I get it, you can just tell yourself that there IS someone better out there for you, or it wasn’t “meant to be” but come on, is that really helping soothe the pain anymore than you would want it to? I will not be the weirdo to tell you to embrace the pain however, I won’t say don’t embrace it. When I was writing about love I mentioned how the person will cause you insanity, hate to say it but the insanity doesn’t stop just because you broke up. Their face, their smile, their laugh, their jokes, their hugs, their kisses, will continue to taunt you until eventually you find someone else’s. EMBRACE THAT. Enjoy the fact that you can even remember all their little quirks, and take pride in the fact that they are most likely still drooling over yours as well. When you try to push yourself to get over someone, all you’re doing is inflicting insanity on yourself- stop that. Embrace it all, because breakups are a part of love and love is totally worth it.

Your friend’s are going to try and tell you how to cope with your breakup, but your friends don’t understand that everyone copes with it differently. You may want to watch chick-flicks all day, or you may want to go to the club and forget what’s his face, for one night. Either way, there will be one night where you are laying in bed with chocolate, bawling your eyes out and thinking you will never feel love for any man/woman again, and that you really have no desire to. You aren’t weird, obsessive, or depressed you are going through a break up. Now, I haven’t experienced a second love yet, but I know it will be f*cking great, and I will handle it with much more sanity.


…not every relationship is meant to last forever. And sometimes the best thing you can do is takea step back and give yourself a chance to breathe.”